On Perseverance

Perseverance (noun): Determined continuation; steady and continued action or belief, usually over a long period and especially despite difficulties or setback.

Life can be hard. For some it’s harder than others, but I can’t think of a single person I’ve ever known that hasn’t had to deal with some form of adversity or another.  I’m sure there are some out there that have had an easy go of it, because there are always exceptions to the rules, but they are so few and far between that I’ve never actually met one.

So we know that at one point or another, something in your life will go wrong. That is pretty much a given.  What we need to focus on is not the possibility of the dark clouds putting your life in the shadows, but our goals and our plans, and what we need to do to make those things happen.  We need to persevere.

In my professional life I’m always in a “worst case scenario” frame of mind because I need to think of every possible bad thing that could happen and plan for the aftermath to keep my clients safe and secure. That is my job and I take it seriously.  A lot of the time it can be really hard to snap out of that type of thinking and when you’re always in that state of mind it can easily slip into a feeling of helplessness or hopelessness.   The thing is though, no matter how much planning and pondering you do, no matter how much you dwell on the prevention strategies, bad things can still happen.  It’s easier to just accept the fact that sometimes things are simply out your control and recognize that sometimes you have no choice but to roll with the punches.

I have a big problem with the doom & gloom type of preparedness folks because I don’t think fear mongering is a good way to get people to “wake up” to the need to be prepared. In fact I think overall these types of people do more of a disservice to their fellow man than anything.  It’s one thing to acknowledge the fact that things can and do go wrong and to prepare to deal with things as they come, it’s quite another to try and scare people into your way of thinking or to devote your entire life to preparing for the end of the world as we know it and forgetting to actually live the life you have when things aren’t going wrong.  And frankly, when you approach preparing to deal with whatever may come from a place of fear, you are probably not going to do the things that actually make sense in the world as we currently know it.

Whenever an unexpected disturbance happens, you basically have two choices. You can curl up in a ball and wait for “the end” or you can dust yourself off and move forward with your life.  You can give up or you can persevere.  I believe a lot of people think giving up is the easier route, but when you have to live with your decisions, giving up will come back to haunt you.  And I know that sometimes it’s much easier said than done, to just keep moving forward, but at least when you take that route there will be an eventual payoff as opposed to wallowing in despair and self-pity which gets you nothing. The old cliché of “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” holds some truth to it.  The more you strive for self-reliance and independence the easier it becomes to bounce back from the bad stuff.

If you have goals you are working toward and something derails those plans, don’t give up on them. Assess your situation, adjust your plans, adapt and get yourself back on track.  In short, persevere.  We’re all capable of it, we just need to convince ourselves of that capability and get on with living life.

Thanks for reading!

~J

 

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